I have found that I do best when I do what the wise one's say - Invite your grief to tea. It has much to teach us. There are so many things I grieve - the shift in my primary relationship, the aging of my children, the aging of my own body, the uncertain times we live in, even the change and growth of myself - "oh I used to be this person and now, I am this person, how interesting." It is all part of life and all part of the continuous loss of experiencing living. Does this mean I wallow? No, I do not. Well, maybe, sometimes - this often depends on my hormonal state - ha! ha! Ultimately, though, it means I simply honor that this is part of my experience of being a human being, what a glorious gift. Not all beings can feel emotion to the depths of which we humans can. Therefore, it is a gift. Difficult? Absolutely! Enriching? Without question! For I find that as I grieve, the gifts that come from it are humility, compassion, grace and gratitude. It is important though to not seek these outcomes as one grieves, although, it's a natural consequence, like, hey! what's my pay off? I find that empathy towards myself as I am grieving, such as "yeah, honey, this is hard" or "oh, you are such a good mom and you have given it your all" or "it is so hard to watch my brother or sister suffer" or simply, "I love you". These words of self compassion bring comfort to me. Also, if I call on my guides, angels or higher being for guidance, I find that they are there to comfort me as well. It is one of the mysteries of life - grief - and it takes so many beautiful forms. Have you invited your grief to tea recently? What did it tell you?
Many blessings on your journey dear one, Jen Paul of Life Passages.
Jen Paul, Life Cycle Celebrant, Ordained Minister, Wedding Officiant, Life Coach, Death Doula